Monday, December 21, 2015

Let The Bruises bring Out the Hidden Strength in You!!

Let The Bruises bring Out the Hidden Strength in You

The sun had risen with all its charisma that day
The birds had chanted the chirping verses all the way
The dews were sparkling on the blades of grass nearby
The entire meadow was glowing under its morning warmth
And the gentle wind had touched her face with love
As she had looked herself in the Mirror
The eyes were twinkling with dreams and Cheer
The face was glowing with countless hopes
As her heart was dancing with pensive thoughts

The entire day passed as it does everyday
But some ugly moments were waiting on her way
To scratch her heart and wound her soul
The beast in human form was ruthless and foul

As she saw the mirror…she screamed
Where are the cheers and who did steal her dreams?
The eyes were sunken, desiccated and bleak
And her facade was injured, violated and bruised…..

Her world was paused there as she lost her dreams
And the beast was roaming free for some more victims.

It’s the story that often goes true most of the times whenever a “sexual crime” takes place at some part of the world. It’s really tough and difficult to imagine the ordeal of someone who goes through such inhumanity. Inhumanity is such a thing that anybody who is subjected to its any form literally loses all hopes, strengths, cheers and thoughts …which are basic things to be a living person. The “sexual violence” literally kills the victim’s soul as a person and she becomes a “living Dead”…on her way. It seems as if within some “ugly moments” she was robbed of her entire life….

And just imagine,
Will the above girl will confess about her nightmare to her family?
Though in most cases it’s a BIG NO, but let’s assume that she does, then will the family members will brought her case to the law enforcing bodies?
Simple saying…will the “abuse” get reported?
Even if reported…will the law enforcing bodies will handle it delicately given to the sensitiveness of the case?
And what about the family, relatives, friends, nears and dears and above all society? Will they stand besides her giving her strength?

The reality is practically it’s an obvious NO in most cases. In India rape is always a common incident courtesy the strong feudal grip on our society. Children, young women, working women, sometime even strong women chose (mostly) to be “silent” than getting “noisy” about their pain because they know they will be countered with “victim blaming” by our society. There has been a typical stigma attached with rape and other sexual assaults that often discourage girls in particular and families in general to report the cases across the country. Unfortunately most of the “sexual violence cases” often goes unreported. The reason is simple. Society has a very weird kind of spectacle to view such crimes…

We claim we are progressing day by day.
Our life has become full of all those jazzy gadgets all the way.
The technology has made our life simple and smart.
But have we come out of a medieval mindset?

It’s because of this hypocrite’s attitude of society, security and safety of the children and women are always a big question mark.  Their respect and dignity has always a challenge to face.
But it’s high time we must understand that it’s the SILENCE of victims that actually empowers the culprits to make VIOLENCE against us.  It’s very important to bring out these “beasts in human clones” to the broad day light. A criminal can’t be put behind the bars or punished severely unless his crime is reported.
So I feel…whatever the consequences the victim of “sexual abuses” should speak up….For the following reasons.

No.1 Reporting is a Responsibility and not a human option

A survivor has always a natural responsibility to save others being fall as prey to the perpetrator. Most of the times it been observed that the criminal who has been caught, it’s been found that he has been doing those crimes much before which were never reported. Had his first crime would have been reported, many could have been saved being falling into his trap. So it’s not human to remain silent when you should speak about it. If you’re a victim of “sexual violence” and you’re not reporting then actually you’re committing a bigger crime because you are boosting the confidence and conviction of the perpetrator to go for more heinous crimes.

No.2 Let “Not Reporting” brings shame to the Victim and her family rather than “Reporting”!!!

We know the word “shame” often stops the victim and her family to speak about the “sexual crimes” happened with them.  People think that its “embarrassing” and “disgraceful” if the girl goes public about the crime happened with her or the family will get “dishonor” if they report about the crime happened with their kids.

It’s very important to change this notion.   

It’s very important to Change this Notion in the society. Because actually it is “not reporting” which is disgraceful and shameful. The victim has done nothing wrong which can justify a “terrible sexual abuse”. It’s the outrageous feudal mindsets that justify the crime by “victim blaming” which needs a severe jerk to amend these minds.  

“Serious Reporting” will bring change in the society and amendment to these mindsets thereby will bring Honor to the Victim and the family. Just imagine “A family is looked down upon” as they didn’t report about the sexual crime by a culprit…sounds impossible…right!! But believe me it’s the sure future of our society if we speak up. So speak up….

No.3 Reporting stops Repeated Crimes

A crime should be reported the moment it occurs. It should be nipped in the bud. Else with every repetition, he becomes a habitual offender taking the shape of a monster every time it commits a crime that makes lives hell of many innocents.  Once again let me confirm you….Victims SILENCE is the real power culprit’s VIOLENCE.

I admit that after the horrific incident of Nirbhaya Gang Rape – The Incident that had shaken the nation as it happened in 2013 – certain things have surely changed since then. Now law has been very stringent recommended by Justice Verma Committee that has empowered some woman to report the sexual assaults, which is good news. Reporting and registering of complaints has been increased and there has been much openness noticed among women so far as sexual assault cases are concerned. There has been a notable strong media reporting on sexual assault cases whether it is mainstream TV or front page of print media unlike earlier days post Nirbhaya episode as well. 

But still we have a long way to go…remember a perpetrator heavily drunk still roaming in search of a prey knowing that women these days are bound to work long and get late to homes…High Time Speak Up to get him behind Bars. Certainly not an easy task but not IMPOSSIBLE also.
Let me Quote a verse from the Urdu poet, Faiz Ahmed Faiz:

Faiz Ahmed Faiz:

Bol ke lab azaad hain tere
Bol Zabaan ab tak teri hain
Bol yeh sutwan jism hai tera
Bol ke jaan ab tak teri hai
Bol ke sach zinda hai ab tak ….

Speak: your lips are free
Speak: your tongue is still yours
Speak: this lissome body is yours
Speak: this life is yours
Speak: so that the truth can prevail ….

Its High time #KnowYourRights and #SpeakUp …let those Bruises Bring Out The Hidden strength in you to Bring a Change in the Society.

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